Domestic violence
All couples in a relationship have disagreements from time to time, but not all disagreements lead to violence. The real tragedy is that in those relationships where arguments often end in violence, despite this behaviour the couple concerned remain in love with each other.How can you tell whether a potential partner may be disposed to use violence?
1. People who experienced domestic violence in their own childhood - either because they were a victim themselves, or because they witnessed violent behaviour between their parents - are prone to assume that violence is a perfectly normal and acceptable reaction to a domestic argument.
2. A partner with 3 or more Wood Elements in his/her Element Chart will exhibit far higher levels of anger than others, and that anger could lead to violence - particularly towards a partner whose Element chart is dominated by Metal, or who also has Wood Elements.
The list below identifies the more dangerous Element balances between two people. For this purpose gender is not important even though statistics show that men are far more likely to use physical violence, whilst women tend to employ verbal abuse.
3. Respect. Like it or not, if a man believes that she is a woman of easy virtue - either because she has had many partners, or because he was tempted into a sexual relationship with her without a proper period of courtship - she will then have forfeited his respect. He may still desire her, but without that essential respect the relationship is more likely to be scarred by physical violence even though the Element balance between them may be more favourable.
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Person 1 Elements
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Person 2 Elements | - Potential affect |
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3 or more Woods
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3 or more Woods | - Complete disaster |
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3 or more Woods
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2 or more Metal + 0 Water | - Disaster looms |
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2 Woods
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2 Metal + 0 Water | - Abuse likely |
There are numerous possible combinations, but those above represent the most volatile. To check your Elements against someone else use the Character Analysis program and enter first your birth date, and then the birth details of your potential/actual partner, or the birth details of a couple you know who have suffered, or who may be suffering from domestic violence.
